Marriage On The Line
By Amy Wagner, L.C.S.W.-C
Today the computer industry has reached unbelievable heights and undoubtedly more growth is to come. One such advancement is the Internet, and although it has many benefits, it has become the enemy in many marriages.
Increasingly more spouses in troubled marriages are turning to the Internet and its variety of chat rooms to find the companionship and closeness they lack in their marriages. To some, just having a friend to talk to is enough; yet to others it has led to extra-marital affairs and ultimately the complete break-up of marriages.
Therapists today are seeing an increase of couples coming to counseling as a result of a partner obsessed with the Internet or having met someone on the Internet. One might say “This would never happen in my marriage” but it is more a reality than one might think. Some warning signs to be aware of include:
• Spouse spending an excessive amount of time on the Internet or on line at the same time everyday
• Lost interest in family, family friends and social activities.
• Scheduling normal household and family responsibilities around the Internet.
• Withdrawing from meaningful conversation.
• Begins making excuses to stay late at work or frequently can’t be home at specific times.
• Takes unexpected day or weekend trips that are not-work related.
The bottom line of all these signs is any strange, different, unusual or out-of-the ordinary behavior that occurs over time and worsens with time. If you think you or your spouse has a problem with Internet relationships, seek help immediately for an assessment of your situation by a board certified clinician. Getting help could be the difference between marriage or divorce. The result is a speedier return to normal functioning, which is beneficial to the individual, their family members, and the workplace.
